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Helping Kids Cope with a Divorce

Helping Kids Cope with a Divorce

Many American children are affected by divorce each year. Those youngsters often feel trapped in the middle as the family splits up. If mommy and daddy don't love each other, they wonder, do they love me? 

Anger, fear, separation anxiety, a sense of abandonment, self-blame, sadness, and embarrassment are common reactions for most children. 

During the first couple of years after a divorce, your stress may get in the way of your ability to parent effectively. You can help make sure your children have a healthier transition when you:

  • Tell them you love them. And tell them often. Provide a secure relationship with both parents.

  • Be open and honest. Explain in terms appropriate to their ages the basic reason for your divorce. Your children must be told that they're not to blame.

  • Keep your kids out of it. Your divorce is between you and your spouse. Don't use your children as pawns, spies, or marriage counselors.

  • Provide consistency. Coordinate with your ex-spouse regarding the same house rules, bedtime, curfew, and favorite foods.

  • Offer professional help. This could be individual counseling or a divorce group. Community agencies, schools, or courts provide them.

If your kids aren't overwhelmed by feelings of responsibility surrounding your divorce, they'll generally mature sooner. They will also become more independent, and have higher self-esteem than kids who are left with unresolved feelings of responsibility and guilt.

You and your spouse once loved each other. Remind your children of this, and that from that love, they are the greatest gift.

Reviewed Date: 11-01-2016

Pediatric Eye Center
Medical/Surgical Eye Specialists, Inc.
Dr. Shakur Toosi
Virginia Ophthalmology Associates
Dr. Giovanni Disandro
Dr. Joel Lall-Trail
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Disclaimer: This information is not intended to substitute or replace the professional medical advice you receive from your child's physician. The content provided on this page is for informational purposes only, and was not designed to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease. Please consult your child's physician with any questions or concerns you may have regarding a medical condition.