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What Does Mommy Do For Fun?

Author: Jessica Woolwine
Published Date: Tuesday, October 04, 2016

I have a confession to make: Idontwannaplaytoday. There. I said it. No more train tracks, invisible tea, bubbles, princesses, Play-Doh or Minecraft.

Taking a million Legos and following a direction booklet longer than War and Peace to make some type of plane I don’t recognize…well, it’s mind-numbing.

I want to love playing I Spy on the way to the grocery store. I really do. I want to love it. But today, I long for music and five minutes to think my own thoughts.

Bensten_What does mommy do for fun?With three kids in constant need of my attention, adult interaction becomes a lifeline. I crave coffee and conversation. Or a little solitude. Or a little of both. 

And there becomes a legitimate need to refer to the potty as a restroom, and to go there alone. It’s right up there with sleep and water.

This is not a stay-at-home mom versus working mom argument. At some point, we all need to be, act, live, think, discuss and enjoy adult things. Just because we chose to become parents doesn’t mean we are now just parents.

Inside … somewhere deep, deep inside… is a person who wants to watch Scandal instead of SpongeBob.

I know her. I miss her. She likes long runs with her playlist on shuffle.

I was talking to a friend the other day, one who is older and wiser than I, about my kids’ busy lives and how hard it was to get a schedule together that worked for all three. I’d finally gotten school, childcare, pick ups, drop offs, baseball, horseback riding, medical appointments, church, work, and the rest of it all figured out for fall.

Great, she’d said. What have you scheduled for you?

Ummm.

Isn’t my kids’ schedule my schedule? She listened to me justify this reasoning. Nodded appropriately. And then it started to feel like I was answering a trick question.

Hmm. There really isn’t anything in the schedule for me. I even shower while Henry plays with toys on the bathroom floor. I help Jackson with homework while I cook dinner.

No wonder I’m balking at play. I needed to put myself back into my own schedule.

It is so easy in this crazy, beautiful and all-encompassing season of parenting small children to get hidden in plain sight. We invest in their futures while leaving ours on pause.

If we have the ability to schedule playdates, activities and time for our kids, it shouldn’t be so hard to do it for ourselves, right?

What does Mommy do for fun?

Guess it’s time to find out.

About Jessica Woolwine

Jessica Woolwine is a native of Hampton Roads and lives in Hampton with her three “miracles” Jackson (9), Abby (5) and Henry (1). As a mother to a childhood cancer survivor and a micro-preemie, she began the blog Mothering Miracles in 2014 to support other families dealing with health issues. Jessica also works as Creative Director for Rubin Communications Group and enjoys mixing her talents for graphic design and creative writing with community relations. She is a past member of both the CHKD Family Advisory Council and the CHKD NICU Family Advisory Council.