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Teen Years

Author: Adrianna and Ryan Walden
Published Date: Tuesday, March 23, 2021

“When I turn 13 next week does that mean I get to watch PG-13 movies?”

I looked at my soon-to-be teen with one raised eyebrow and replied, in my best girly voice, “Ummm, No-ah.”

We both giggled.

The excitement of becoming an official teenager has been buzzing around our house like a bumblebee in a field of wildflowers. We have all heard the rumors about the teenage years. Some have even lived to talk about it. A supervisor I once had tried to warn me. She said, “When your sweet little girl turns 13, she turns into an alien.” No joke. She told me the little girl does come back, but it won’t be for a while.

My beautiful alien just had a 13th birthday and I can confirm she has begun some strange behaviors that I like to describe as “teenagery.” You know, the sassy comebacks, moodiness, and retreating to her room. Yup, my shadow who followed me around for 12 years, had to be tucked in every night, is now telling us she is going to bed, spending time alone in her room, and doing activities apart from Ryan and me. Her favorite form of communication is texting and she wants to send messages to other creatures like herself. I have to admit this is all a bit alien to me.

The extra-terrestrial – I mean teen years – has only just begun for us, but I also know that these “teenagery” behaviors are exactly where she needs to be developmentally. She is exercising independence, figuring out her own opinions and thoughts, and learning more about socializing. It IS actually a very exciting time. Ryan and I have decided we are OK in giving our new alien some “space” and will keep on loving her to the moon and back.



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About Adrianna and Ryan Walden

About Adrianna and Ryan  Walden Ryan and Adrianna Walden have been married for 14 years. The two met when she was working for an arena football team in Norfolk where he was playing football. Ryan is a service coordinator with the Chesapeake Early Intervention Program and Adrianna is a Licensing Specialist for Children's Programs. Both have enjoyed teaching CHKD’s "Happiest Baby" class together for the past eight years. Together they have one daughter, who despite early health issues, is now a thriving and happy school-age child. The Walden's also lead a weekly community group through their church for married couples and their children.