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The Fantastic Journey of Parenting

Author: Jeane N. Liburd, MA, CCLS
Published Date: Tuesday, November 03, 2020

Three years ago, our home was filled with a new joy. A baby boy was born into our family with two slightly older sisters (3 years old and 18 months). Shortly after his birth, we learned that he had a hole in his heart known as a ventricular septal defect (VSD). I will never forget those early days spent with the cardiologist. In the beginning, it was worrisome. I felt anxious about what news we would hear. I wondered if I had done something wrong. What could have prevented his diagnosis? I clung to my one sure thing, my faith. It was here that I could find hope amongst my tears and calm in my anxious thoughts. We were fortunate! His VSD only required monitoring and did not restrict his activity level.

My son is a namesake and he is my last child. Raising the “baby” of the family feels a little different. I find myself savoring these last moments of baby to toddler and toddler to preschool years. After our initial scare with his heart, all other milestones were achieved; some arrived sooner than others but he progressed along, nonetheless. He is amazed at the world around him and adores his sisters. Almost every night before bed, he asks me to see the moon. Some nights, the moon is hiding behind a cloud and other times we see it in all its wonder, “Wow, a big, shiny moon!”

We were on a late afternoon walk one day. It was the time of day when the sun is still shining, yet the moon can be seen. Cornell asked, “Mama, pick me up so I can get the moon.” In that moment, I was in awe of his faith in me. While I knew it was impossible, he believed that his mama could help him reach the moon.

Parenting is both a gift and tremendous responsibility. We need one another to reach to the “moon” of our lives. We commit to nurturing our children, so they know they belong and have purpose in this world. We provide structure and boundaries to help them flourish and give them a sense of stability. We provide buffer zones between them and others who try to minimize their potential or limit their place in this world. We equip them to face adversity in life because surely, as the days are long, troubles will come. Those who depend on faith or spirituality and find strength and true joy in it, share it with their children, in hopes they will make it their own. We help to preserve their wonder of creation (like awe in the moon) and point them back to the creator. We teach them to understand their emotions and find productive ways to express them. We teach them love and respect by example when we show love to ourselves and those around us. We, as parents, do this best in community and we offer community to others, because we know we cannot accomplish these tasks alone. So, here’s to lifting each other up!

About Jeane N. Liburd, MA, CCLS

Jeané Liburd has worked in the field of child Iife since 2005. She earned a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy and is trained in play therapy. She currently serves as an adjunct instructor for Liberty University. Throughout her career, she has provided services for children and families in various settings including hospitals, pediatric hospice, and community programs. The focus of her work is supporting children and families who have experienced illness, grief, and loss.

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