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Psychosocial Needs of the Dying Child

Psychosocial Needs of the Dying Child

The child with a life-limiting illness has the same need for love, emotional support, and normal activities as any person facing death. Love, respect, and dignity are all important factors in caring for a dying child. Consider these psychosocial needs of the dying child:

  • Time to be a child. Take part in age-appropriate activities and play for children.

  • Expressing fear or anger. The child should have someone they can talk with about their fears, joys, or anger. Being alone at the time of death is a common fear for dying children. Listening to them is the most important way to help. The child may not want to talk about dying. This should be respected. But the parents may feel a strong need to talk about losing their child. If so, they should find someone they can talk to. Even if these issues are not discussed, it's important to offer a nonjudgmental and caring presence.

  • Depression and withdrawal. Independence and control need to be given to the dying teen whenever possible. Many physical changes happen before death. These can make the child very dependent for even simple tasks. Loss of control and depression may cause a child to withdraw. It is important to validate their feelings without forcing them to discuss it.

  • Spiritual needs. Respect and provide for spiritual and cultural needs. There are many ways to honor the transition from getting well to letting go or dying. These include rituals that let the child and their family remember, giving thanks and expressing gratitude, and saying goodbye. What and how much to tell a child depends on the family's culture and ethnic background.

  • Having a wish fulfilled. Some organizations provide funding for a "wish" for seriously ill or dying children. If possible, help the child decide what they would most like to do or experience before they die. A shopping spree, Disney World, a new computer, or meeting a famous star are examples of children's wishes. These often create wonderful memories for families of children with a life-limiting illness.

  • Permission from loved ones to die. Some children seem to need "permission" to die. Many children fear their death will hurt their parents. And they are afraid that leaving them behind will make them very sad. It has been observed that children will cling to life through pain and suffering until they get "permission" from their parents to die. This has been described in the dying adult, as well. Sometimes parents are not always the best people to give this permission. Someone close to both the parents and the child may be more appropriate.

  • Comfort in knowing they aren't alone in the dying process. The dying child most often wants reassurance that they won't die alone and that they will be missed. Parents and loved ones need to comfort the child and tell them that, when death happens, they will be right at the bedside. This is often a hard promise to keep. But every effort should be made to be holding or touching the child when they die. The presence at death benefits both caregivers and the child.

  • Setting limits. Parents need to keep setting appropriate limits on a child's behavior. It's important that parents don't let their guilt or grief affect their normal parenting. If not, the consequence can be a child becoming or feeling out of control.

Reviewed Date: 08-01-2023

Psychosocial Needs of the Dying Child

Disclaimer: This information is not intended to substitute or replace the professional medical advice you receive from your child's physician. The content provided on this page is for informational purposes only, and was not designed to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease. Please consult your child's physician with any questions or concerns you may have regarding a medical condition.